Pregnant No More! :-(

Hey family,

We first want to say what a blessing it has been to share the joy of our pregnancy with all of you.

However, it is with heavy hearts that we have to tell you that late last night, we lost our beloved baby.

This has been an extremely difficult time for us. It’s been a painful and challenging battle and while we lost this pregnancy, we are confident that we will see the end of our faith: a strong and healthy little G!

Our faith has not been shaken at all. Quite the contrary. This ordeal has strengthened us like never before. It is God’s will that we are fruitful and that we multiply. It is God’s will that we don’t give up, so we definitely won’t. We Only Believe!

We know that miscarriage is not the will of God and we are well aware that we are not wrestling with flesh and blood.

Honestly, we both feel like satan has pushed us so much that he’s pushed us right onto our throne! It’s time out for sitting back and watching him steal, kill and destroy.

Now it’s time that we ALL take it to him! And that’s just what we’ve been doing and will continue to do…with the Word of God!

We’re sorry to have to share this news with you in an email. But with there being so many of you, we wanted to be sure that you heard this directly from us.

We both wanted to thank you all for your love and support and we know that our next baby will have a multitude of aunts and uncles to help us pour the word of God into him.

Many of you have expressed that you feel as though you are truly on this journey with us...and we really do appreciate that. We know that this is a loss for you too. In a week or so, we will post the details on our blog for those of you who are interested. This truly is the making of an amazing testimony.

We'll keep trying :-)  and we know that God's word will manifest...and suddenly! So, please keep us and our family in your prayers.

Again, we cannot thank you enough for your love and support. We’re so very grateful to be a part of our extended family. We praise God for each and every one of you. Know that WE LOVE YOU!

In expectation and in faith,
Charles and Kellye 'Queenie' Brown

Here are some additional articles I wrote on the subject

We’re Having a Baby!

In this article, I share the blessing of how God healed my body of a 12 year illness and delivered me from the bondage of medication right before we conceived. It’s quite an amazing testimony.

Misdiagnosed Miscarriage: A Silent Epidemic (One mother's desperate warning to all women, especially women of faith) Originally published at BLOGMagazine.com

When we learned that we could lose our child, I began to research miscarriages and discovered some shocking information about miscarriage diagnoses that EVERY woman should be made aware of.  I published this article at BLOGMagazine.org.

What NOT to say when you don't know what to say

After we lost the baby, we shared the news with close friends and family. However, the responses from some of them was even more disturbing than the news that we shared.

I learned 2 very important things from this that every woman should know.

Misdiagnosed Miscarriage…A Silent Epidemic!!

One Mothers Desperate Warning to ALL Women, Especially Women of Faith!

“WE’RE PREGNANT!!!”

Valentines Day, 2012 was a beautiful day. By March 2, we found out we were pregnant with our very first baby.

My husband and I were over the moon. We celebrated our new secret and reveled in the fact that after 19 years together, we would finally be parents.

Although I was shocked, I now understood why God had so miraculously healed my body of a 12 year illness, and completely delivered me from 6 medications just months before.  Being 41 was never a concern for me.  I was more excited to be beyond the pain of fibromyalgia and the bondage of medication. I looked forward to experiencing the bliss of a supernatural pregnancy and a pain free delivery. Don’t laugh! Yes, with God it IS possible. (Supernatural Childbirth)

I understand why some women wait to share the good news until after the riskiest time has passed. But we decided that the only thing keeping us from sharing what God was doing in us would be the fear that it wouldn’t come to pass. So, at 4 weeks, we opted to have faith that it would come to pass and let our families in on our joy. Also, we believed that their agreement in celebration and confession would speak life into our unborn child. Needless to say…everyone IS elated!

WE’RE NOT PREGNANT?
At about 6 weeks into the pregnancy, we sat in the dimly lit doctor’s exam room excited and staring at the monitor to get the first glimpse of our Baby King. The ultrasound technician moved the wand around and around trying to get a clear picture of our baby. But all she could find was the yolk sac and the gestational sac. She said there was no baby! We all thought, “Perhaps it’s just too early.” So, they took my blood and made another appointment in a week to get another look. The next day I received a call from the perinatal specialist with very bad news. My HCG numbers hadn’t doubled which were signs that I was miscarrying.
She told us to come back in and have another ultrasound to confirm.

At the next appointment we were cautiously hopeful and trusting God that our Baby King had developed more and we would be able to see him.

Together, my husband and I stared at the screen and it looked the same as it did the week before. The nurse left the room. The perinatal specialist came in and confirmed our worst fears. The baby had not developed. There was no fetal pole and a miscarriage was inevitable. She recommended that we have a D&C, (essentially an abortion), which would allow us to immediately try again. She told us that it could take up to 6 weeks for my body to purge ‘the products of pregnancy’. She stressed that a natural miscarriage could be extremely painful, could cause an infection and it would delay our chances of getting pregnant again. Her professional opinion was that a D&C would be our only option. I couldn’t stop the tears. I had already prepared myself for this news and was all ready to speak the word of God to the situation immediately. But in that moment, I had no words. I had no confidence. It even felt like I had no faith.
My mind raced. “This can’t be true. How could this be? God you healed my body for this. We prayed for this. I’ve had dreams about my Baby King. This just cannot be!”  I cried. I felt helpless, hopeless and I wondered, where my faith had gone?

We left the specialist’s office and went to discuss what had just happened. Over lunch, decided to consider the D&C and we vowed to try again immediately. Emotionally exhausted, I went home and went straight to bed.

I was about to accept miscarriage as my fate when I called a friend and told her what happened. Immediately she said “NO! That cannot happen. Children are a gift from God and God’s gifts are given without repentance. We are redeemed from the curse. We will not accept that! You can’t accept that! Let God’s word be true and every man a lie.”

She went on and on force-feeding me the Word of God and I took in every bit of it. This same friend has endured 6 miscarriages and she was not putting up with Satan stealing another child, even if it wasn’t her own. I listened to her cry out for me to believe as she helped to rebuild my faith. It’s interesting how easily you lose your footing when you have been shaken by your worst fears. Fortunately for me, my faith was restored in that very moment. I held on to every word and I wouldn’t let go. After talking with her, I felt so much better and stronger even. I knew that I was in for a fight; the fight of my life. I guess that’s what the Word means by “fight the good fight of faith”.

I decided in that very moment…that I’m going to believe God. If my body ‘passes’ this baby, I will deal with it. But until that happens, I am going to trust and believe. A few minutes later I received a call from my husband. We discussed it and we were in agreement! We decided to walk by faith and not by sight.

At our next appointment, our OB/GYN was PERFECT! She said, “Let’s wait a week and then do another ultrasound. We’ll just give it some time. If your body starts showing symptoms, we’ll deal with it. If not, we’ll get the good news next week.” That was just what we wanted to hear.The next week, we were more hopeful. However the ultrasound looked almost the same.  This time there was a fetal pole that was measuring 6 weeks old, but there was no heartbeat.  By then we were almost 9 weeks. There should have been much more fetal development.My OB/GYN lovingly gave us our options, yet again. Then she asked me to just be honest with her and tell her where I was. I was blunt and said, “I’m not ready to give up.”

She didn’t question me at all. She simply said “Let’s wait another 2 weeks and take another look.” We agreed.

THE HOPE
In the midst of all of this, I began searching the web for stories of hope; stories of women who had been where I was.

I stumbled upon a web site that has literally changed my life: MisdiagnosedMiscarriage.com.  This web site has hundreds of testimonies of mothers who were diagnosed with miscarriage for multiple reasons. These mother’s doctors recommended D&C and instead they opted to allow their bodies to process the miscarriage naturally. Many of their babies are alive and well today!

I was glued to the computer, forwarding story after story to my husband for him to read as well.  This built our faith like never before.

HOLDING ON TO HOPE
Going through a miscarriage diagnosis is NOT easy. Physically you still feel pregnant, but the joy of pregnancy has been completely stolen and replaced with fear and uncertainty.

Emotionally you are torn. You’re afraid, confused and you really don’t know who or what to believe & ultimately trust. You know what you saw on the monitor, but you want to trust God and believe for the best. It becomes impossible to focus your thoughts on anything else. You’re frustrated and angry and the pregnancy hormones don’t make any of it easier. And yet there’s still a shred of hope that it’s all just a mistake and everything will be ok. So far, I’ve been asked 3 times if I wanted to have a D&C. After reading so many testimonies, it became quite clear to me that a D&C was NOT an option for us at all.

To date I have had no signs of miscarriage and it has been 6 weeks since my doctor first diagnosed our pregnancy as a miscarriage!

We are working the Word of God like never before and we are confident that He who began a good work in me, will complete it! (Philippians 1:6).

THE REVELATION & THE WARNING
As I read through the countless testimonies, it dawned on me – OMG! There must be an astounding number of mothers who have unknowingly ‘aborted’ their babies before 13 weeks because of a doctor’s recommendation.On this website alone, there were mothers who were beyond their 9th week and they still hadn’t found their baby on an ultrasound. Yet, later in the pregnancy, the baby was found growing normally with no issues whatsoever.Some mothers didn’t even hear the heartbeat until the 13th week. This made me wonder how many mothers have opted for a D&C prior to the 13th week because they didn’t hear a heartbeat?

That’s when it really hit me and I could clearly see what Satan is doing…even today!
The word of God tells us that he’s a theif, and he comes to steal, kill and destroy. That is exactly what he is doing and he is using the mothers themselves to help him in his destruction…yes even mothers of faith!

Here’s how he does it. If he can get a mother to FEAR and then believe that she has already lost her unborn child, he can convince her to make an appointment, show up, lie on a table and unwittingly terminate a perfectly healthy pregnancy.

IT GETS WORSE
I also learned that the D&C procedure causes scar tissue (Asherman’s syndrome) to build up in the uterus. That scar tissue makes it far more difficult for a future fertilized egg to implant itself into the lining of the uterus. Basically, multiple D&Cs can potentially result in total infertility. So, there it is. Satan is convincing mothers to terminate perfectly healthy babies. And then the process of termination can ultimately cause their infertility.  All of this occurs when a perfectly healthy baby could have been the initial result had the mother been advised to wait. WOW! That’s why God’s word says my people are destroyed for lack of knowledge.  (Hosea 4:6).

NO CONDEMNATION (Romans 8:1)
Please know that I am not here to judge anyone for their personal, private decision. Had I not found this website, I may have become exasperated by the process and opted to end my own misery with a D&C.

SO, WHAT’S THE SOLUTION?
Miscarriages do happen, even though it’s not God’s will. However, the testimonies confirm that not all cased of diagnosed miscarriages are accurate.So, if you or someone you know has been diagnosed with a miscarriage and a D&C is the recommended ‘treatment’, WAIT and DO NOTHING! Even after a 2^nd or 3^rd opinion…WAIT! Why rush to have a D&C or take a pill to induce a miscarriage? Our bodies are perfectly capable of managing that process. They have been for thousands of years. Waiting and allowing the natural process to take place will give you the certainty that an imperfect doctor cannot. Remember that man and his creations (machines) are fallible. Time is your friend, not your enemy. Allow God the time to do what He said He would do. (Philippians 1:6). Sure you will feel ‘crazy’ when your doctor stares you in the eye and confirms your worst fears, but the word tells us to FEAR NOT! Only Believe! (…, and she shall be made whole. Luke 8:50).

DISCLAIMER:
If you are having excessive bleeding, high fever, unstable vital signs or excessive pain, you should see a doctor immediately. But still stay in faith! As I continued to scour the web for testimonies, I found stories of women who bled profusely and still delivered a healthy baby. There were stories where mothers thought they had miscarried but were found to be pregnant many weeks later. There were even 2 accounts where mothers went through with the D&C and the baby still survived.

STAND IN FAITH!
Let this be an opportunity for us all to strengthen our faith and watch the word of God manifest in our lives. After all, we have too much invested in our baby kings to let them go without a fight…even if all we have to do to fight is STAND and BELIEVE God!

Now therefore stand and see this great thing, which the LORD will do before your eyes. (Samuel 12:16)

WE OVERCOME BY … THE WORD OF OUR TESTIMONY (Revelation 12:11)
I decided to share this very private and painful experience, while we are still in the midst of it, for one reason alone: Hosea 4:6 – My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge. I couldn’t, in good conscience, keep this to myself after I learned how Satan is using this painful circumstance to utterly destroy healthy children and the wombs of their loving mothers.Women need to be informed, and equipped with the word so that they are able to successfully to stand up against [all] the strategies and the deceits of the devil. (Ephesians 6:11). For more information and scriptural resources go to http://www.WisdomSisterCircles.com

Do you have a misdiagnosed miscarriage testimony? Did you elect to have a D&C based on one or 2 doctors’ recommendations before the 13^th week? Multiple times? I want to hear from you. I’m collecting testimonies and yours could help build another mother’s faith. Please send your story to Misdiagnosed@WisdomSisterCircles.com. With the right Knowledge, we can prevent this happening for other Mothers-to-be nationwide.

With Grace,
Kellye 'Queenie' Brown

Originally published in BLOGMagazine.org.