One Mothers Desperate Warning to ALL Women, Especially Women of Faith!
“WE’RE PREGNANT!!!”
Valentines Day, 2012 was a beautiful day. By March 2, we found out we
were pregnant with our very first baby.
My husband and I were over the
moon. We celebrated our new secret and reveled in the fact that after 19
years together, we would finally be parents.
Although I was shocked, I now understood why God had so miraculously
healed my body of a 12 year illness, and completely delivered me from 6
medications just months before. Being 41 was never a concern for me. I
was more excited to be beyond the pain of fibromyalgia and the bondage
of medication. I looked forward to experiencing the bliss of a
supernatural pregnancy and a pain free delivery. Don’t laugh! Yes, with
God it IS possible. (
Supernatural Childbirth)
I understand why some women wait to share the good news until after
the riskiest time has passed. But we decided that the only thing keeping
us from sharing what God was doing in us would be the fear that it
wouldn’t come to pass. So, at 4 weeks, we opted to have faith that it
would come to pass and let our families in on our joy. Also, we believed
that their agreement in celebration and confession would speak life
into our unborn child. Needless to say…everyone IS elated!
WE’RE NOT PREGNANT?
At about 6 weeks into the pregnancy, we sat in the dimly lit doctor’s
exam room excited and staring at the monitor to get the first glimpse
of our Baby King. The ultrasound technician moved the wand around and
around trying to get a clear picture of our baby. But all she could find
was the yolk sac and the gestational sac. She said there was no baby!
We all thought, “Perhaps it’s just too early.” So, they took my blood
and made another appointment in a week to get another look. The next day
I received a call from the perinatal specialist with very bad news. My
HCG numbers hadn’t doubled which were signs that I was miscarrying.
She
told us to come back in and have another ultrasound to confirm.
At the next appointment we were cautiously hopeful and trusting God
that our Baby King had developed more and we would be able to see him.
Together, my husband and I stared at the screen and it looked the
same as it did the week before. The nurse left the room. The perinatal
specialist came in and confirmed our worst fears. The baby had not
developed. There was no fetal pole and a miscarriage was inevitable. She
recommended that we have a D&C, (essentially an abortion), which
would allow us to immediately try again. She told us that it could take
up to 6 weeks for my body to purge ‘the products of pregnancy’. She
stressed that a natural miscarriage could be extremely painful, could
cause an infection and it would delay our chances of getting pregnant
again. Her professional opinion was that a D&C would be our only
option. I couldn’t stop the tears. I had already prepared myself for
this news and was all ready to speak the word of God to the situation
immediately. But in that moment, I had no words. I had no confidence. It
even felt like I had no faith.
My mind raced. “This can’t be true. How could this be? God you healed
my body for this. We prayed for this. I’ve had dreams about my Baby
King. This just cannot be!” I cried. I felt helpless, hopeless and I
wondered, where my faith had gone?
We left the specialist’s office and went to discuss what had just
happened. Over lunch, decided to consider the D&C and we vowed to
try again immediately. Emotionally exhausted, I went home and went
straight to bed.
I was about to accept miscarriage as my fate when I called a friend
and told her what happened. Immediately she said “NO! That cannot
happen. Children are a gift from God and God’s gifts are given without
repentance. We are redeemed from the curse. We will not accept that! You
can’t accept that! Let God’s word be true and every man a lie.”
She went on and on force-feeding me the Word of God and I took in
every bit of it. This same friend has endured 6 miscarriages and she was
not putting up with Satan stealing another child, even if it wasn’t her
own. I listened to her cry out for me to believe as she helped to
rebuild my faith. It’s interesting how easily you lose your footing when
you have been shaken by your worst fears. Fortunately for me, my faith
was restored in that very moment. I held on to every word and I wouldn’t
let go. After talking with her, I felt so much better and stronger
even. I knew that I was in for a fight; the fight of my life. I guess
that’s what the Word means by “fight the good fight of faith”.
I decided in that very moment…that I’m going to believe God. If my
body ‘passes’ this baby, I will deal with it. But until that happens, I
am going to trust and believe. A few minutes later I received a call
from my husband. We discussed it and we were in agreement! We decided to
walk by faith and not by sight.
At our next appointment, our OB/GYN was PERFECT! She said, “Let’s
wait a week and then do another ultrasound. We’ll just give it some
time. If your body starts showing symptoms, we’ll deal with it. If not,
we’ll get the good news next week.” That was just what we wanted to
hear.The next week, we were more hopeful. However the ultrasound looked
almost the same. This time there was a fetal pole that was measuring 6
weeks old, but there was no heartbeat. By then we were almost 9 weeks.
There should have been much more fetal development.My OB/GYN lovingly
gave us our options, yet again. Then she asked me to just be honest with
her and tell her where I was. I was blunt and said, “I’m not ready to
give up.”
She didn’t question me at all. She simply said “Let’s wait another 2 weeks and take another look.” We agreed.
THE HOPE
In the midst of all of this, I began searching the web for stories of hope; stories of women who had been where I was.
I stumbled upon a web site that has literally changed my life:
MisdiagnosedMiscarriage.com.
This web site has hundreds of testimonies of mothers who were diagnosed
with miscarriage for multiple reasons. These mother’s doctors
recommended D&C and instead they opted to allow their bodies to
process the miscarriage naturally. Many of their babies are alive and
well today!
I was glued to the computer, forwarding story after story to my
husband for him to read as well. This built our faith like never
before.
HOLDING ON TO HOPE
Going through a miscarriage diagnosis is NOT easy. Physically you
still feel pregnant, but the joy of pregnancy has been completely stolen
and replaced with fear and uncertainty.
Emotionally you are torn. You’re afraid, confused and you really
don’t know who or what to believe & ultimately trust. You know what
you saw on the monitor, but you want to trust God and believe for the
best. It becomes impossible to focus your thoughts on anything else.
You’re frustrated and angry and the pregnancy hormones don’t make any of
it easier. And yet there’s still a shred of hope that it’s all just a
mistake and everything will be ok. So far, I’ve been asked 3 times if I
wanted to have a D&C. After reading so many testimonies, it became
quite clear to me that a D&C was NOT an option for us at all.
To date I have had no signs of miscarriage and it has
been 6 weeks since my doctor first diagnosed our pregnancy as a
miscarriage!
We are working the Word of God like never before and we are confident that He who began a good work in me, will complete it! (
Philippians 1:6).
THE REVELATION & THE WARNING
As I read through the countless testimonies, it dawned on me – OMG!
There must be an astounding number of mothers who have unknowingly
‘aborted’ their babies before 13 weeks because of a doctor’s
recommendation.On this website alone, there were mothers who were beyond
their 9th week and they still hadn’t found their baby on an ultrasound.
Yet, later in the pregnancy, the baby was found growing normally with
no issues whatsoever.Some mothers didn’t even hear the heartbeat until
the 13th week. This made me wonder how many mothers have opted for a
D&C prior to the 13th week because they didn’t hear a heartbeat?
That’s when it really hit me and I could clearly see what Satan
is doing…even today!
The word of God tells us that he’s a theif, and he comes to steal,
kill and destroy. That is exactly what he is doing and he is using the
mothers themselves to help him in his destruction…yes even mothers of
faith!
Here’s how he does it. If he can get a mother to FEAR and then
believe that she has already lost her unborn child, he can convince her
to make an appointment, show up, lie on a table and unwittingly
terminate a perfectly healthy pregnancy.
IT GETS WORSE
I also learned that the D&C procedure causes scar tissue
(Asherman’s syndrome) to build up in the uterus. That scar tissue makes
it far more difficult for a future fertilized egg to implant itself into
the lining of the uterus. Basically, multiple D&Cs can potentially
result in total infertility. So, there it is. Satan is convincing
mothers to terminate perfectly healthy babies. And then the process of
termination can ultimately cause their infertility. All of this occurs
when a perfectly healthy baby could have been the initial result had the
mother been advised to wait. WOW! That’s why God’s word says my people
are destroyed for lack of knowledge. (Hosea 4:6).
NO CONDEMNATION (Romans 8:1)
Please know that I am not here to judge anyone for their personal,
private decision. Had I not found this website, I may have become
exasperated by the process and opted to end my own misery with a
D&C.
SO, WHAT’S THE SOLUTION?
Miscarriages do happen, even though it’s not God’s will. However, the
testimonies confirm that not all cased of diagnosed miscarriages are
accurate.So, if you or someone you know has been diagnosed with a
miscarriage and a D&C is the recommended ‘treatment’, WAIT and DO
NOTHING! Even after a 2
nd or 3
rd opinion…WAIT! Why
rush to have a D&C or take a pill to induce a miscarriage? Our
bodies are perfectly capable of managing that process. They have been
for thousands of years. Waiting and allowing the natural process to take
place will give you the certainty that an imperfect doctor cannot.
Remember that man and his creations (machines) are fallible. Time is
your friend, not your enemy. Allow God the time to do what He said He
would do. (Philippians 1:6). Sure you will feel ‘crazy’ when your doctor
stares you in the eye and confirms your worst fears, but the word tells
us to FEAR NOT! Only Believe! (…, and she shall be made whole. Luke
8:50).
DISCLAIMER:
If you are having excessive bleeding, high fever, unstable vital
signs or excessive pain, you should see a doctor immediately. But still
stay in faith!
As I continued to scour the web for testimonies, I found stories of
women who bled profusely and still delivered a healthy baby. There were
stories where mothers thought they had miscarried but were found to be
pregnant many weeks later. There were even 2 accounts where mothers went
through with the D&C and the baby still survived.
STAND IN FAITH!
Let this be an opportunity for us all to strengthen our faith and
watch the word of God manifest in our lives. After all, we have too much
invested in our baby kings to let them go without a fight…even if
all we have to do to fight is STAND and BELIEVE God!
Now therefore stand and see this great thing, which the LORD will do before your eyes. (Samuel 12:16)
WE OVERCOME BY … THE WORD OF OUR TESTIMONY (Revelation 12:11)
I decided to share this very private and painful experience, while we
are still in the midst of it, for one reason alone: Hosea 4:6 – My
people are destroyed for lack of knowledge. I couldn’t, in good
conscience, keep this to myself after I learned how Satan is using this
painful circumstance to utterly destroy healthy children and the wombs
of their loving mothers.Women need to be informed, and equipped with the
word so that they are able to successfully to stand up against [all]
the strategies and the deceits of the devil. (Ephesians 6:11). For more
information and scriptural resources go to
http://www.WisdomSisterCircles.com
Do you have a misdiagnosed miscarriage testimony? Did you elect to
have a D&C based on one or 2 doctors’ recommendations before the 13
th
week? Multiple times? I want to hear from you. I’m collecting
testimonies and yours could help build another mother’s faith. Please
send your story to
Misdiagnosed@WisdomSisterCircles.com. With the right Knowledge, we can prevent this happening for other Mothers-to-be nationwide.
With Grace,
Kellye 'Queenie' Brown
Originally published in
BLOGMagazine.org.
Hey family,
